JessamyThe Age Gap.
April 8th 2008 02:59
In this modeern rotating ball of dust and bricks and reality tv, I would argue that a land slide of things are embraced-nay, they are openly broadcast on television shows such as 'Wifeswap' and 'Cheaters'-but I am here to discuss the age old problem of.....the age gap (pun intended with 'age old problem'. Pun quote fulfilled).
The age difference between a guy and a girl, a girl and a girl, and a guy and a guy is interesting. However, today I'm going to straight up be discussing the age difference I am the most enlightened about, aka the girl and guy relationship. I'm not being exclusive, but I'll probably put my foot in it if I start talking about the girl-girl or guy-guy age difference.
So, let's start where all relationships start. School. Namely late primary school, early high school. Well, this is where all my relationships started, and I'm hoping I'm not the only one here. Back in Grade 5, Grade6, a boyfriend would basically get you a $1 worth of gummy bears from the canteen, and maybe hold your hand. If only this behaviour still continued...but, if you were a Year 5 and had a Grade 6 boyfriend, you were in. You had The Older Man. And again, if you behaved like I did, and went out with a Younger Man, it was seen as pretty cool, and actually acceptable.
Moving along to high school, and the age gap widened significantly. I believe one of my friends in Year 8 went out with a boy in Year 11 or 12. At the time, and even now, I see it as a bit more of a ...testing of the gap. Because boys aged 17 to 18 are at a slightly different place than girls aged 13 to 14. I'd hope so, anyway.
I can't really speak, I'm renowned for hooking in with youner boy. But my focus, and my problem right now, dear reader, is the dilemma of what happens after high school. Uni years, and after that, (hopefully), career years. How big a gap is too big? Does it widen as we get older? Or does it appear the same?
Recently, I've....had interest, I'd call it (because if I call it a Once A Year Occurrence in which I Shall Celebrate with Copious Amounts of Psychotic Giggling, you'd all think I was insane) from a guy who is almost ten years my senior. That sets him at about the age of 27. My upwards limit before was about 24, 25. Anything above this sets me in a totally different place, lifestyle and possibly emotional experience wise, than him. Which I think is fair and reasonable.
I don't judge purely on age, but I'd go into the potential meeting with my eyes open to the fact that we're on different places of the same long stick. Unless he still behaves like a uni student, in which case...it's still disturbing.
But is it acceptable? In another ten years time, I think it would be viewed as okay for a 28 year old girl to have a 38 year old parnter. Is it all to do with ageing, and therefore the widening of the gap?
I haven't as of yet come to a conclusion about this, but if I do actually meet the prospective guy, I shall update. Mostly with impressions of just how much different there is (or isn't) between 18-20 year old uni students, and 27 year old men.
The age difference between a guy and a girl, a girl and a girl, and a guy and a guy is interesting. However, today I'm going to straight up be discussing the age difference I am the most enlightened about, aka the girl and guy relationship. I'm not being exclusive, but I'll probably put my foot in it if I start talking about the girl-girl or guy-guy age difference.
So, let's start where all relationships start. School. Namely late primary school, early high school. Well, this is where all my relationships started, and I'm hoping I'm not the only one here. Back in Grade 5, Grade6, a boyfriend would basically get you a $1 worth of gummy bears from the canteen, and maybe hold your hand. If only this behaviour still continued...but, if you were a Year 5 and had a Grade 6 boyfriend, you were in. You had The Older Man. And again, if you behaved like I did, and went out with a Younger Man, it was seen as pretty cool, and actually acceptable.
Moving along to high school, and the age gap widened significantly. I believe one of my friends in Year 8 went out with a boy in Year 11 or 12. At the time, and even now, I see it as a bit more of a ...testing of the gap. Because boys aged 17 to 18 are at a slightly different place than girls aged 13 to 14. I'd hope so, anyway.
I can't really speak, I'm renowned for hooking in with youner boy. But my focus, and my problem right now, dear reader, is the dilemma of what happens after high school. Uni years, and after that, (hopefully), career years. How big a gap is too big? Does it widen as we get older? Or does it appear the same?
Recently, I've....had interest, I'd call it (because if I call it a Once A Year Occurrence in which I Shall Celebrate with Copious Amounts of Psychotic Giggling, you'd all think I was insane) from a guy who is almost ten years my senior. That sets him at about the age of 27. My upwards limit before was about 24, 25. Anything above this sets me in a totally different place, lifestyle and possibly emotional experience wise, than him. Which I think is fair and reasonable.
I don't judge purely on age, but I'd go into the potential meeting with my eyes open to the fact that we're on different places of the same long stick. Unless he still behaves like a uni student, in which case...it's still disturbing.
But is it acceptable? In another ten years time, I think it would be viewed as okay for a 28 year old girl to have a 38 year old parnter. Is it all to do with ageing, and therefore the widening of the gap?
I haven't as of yet come to a conclusion about this, but if I do actually meet the prospective guy, I shall update. Mostly with impressions of just how much different there is (or isn't) between 18-20 year old uni students, and 27 year old men.
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